I believe many would look at me and say, "Young, inexperienced."I may be young and inexperienced. I may be dreamy and unrealistic. But to this I say "Pha!" True, years have not passed to ebb the romance. Need it? Is this complacency what we have to look forward to? Again I say, "Pha!"
Look at the ocean through your mind's eye. See it with the sun shining on it as it serenely meets the shore. Now see it dark and stormy, rough and intimidating, passionate. You look at it with a wary, uncertain eye. It is powerful and it is beautiful. But calm or rough it slowly softens the edges of the rock turning the jagged smooth. A process that takes years. Only God could create (I could stop right there) such a perfect system. It does not work the other way round. The lapping water cannot turn a smooth rock jagged.
Marriage is like this. We can either step into this vast ocean of uncertainty knowing that Christ is with us; or can remain in fear and on edge because we're not sure what might happen next. We can either enter marriage expecting never-ceasing sunshine; or we can be joyful in the seasons. My point is that we can choose to stay stagnant with our crags sticking in every direction; or we can be as God intended: bathed in the water and smoothed over the years. In order to do this we have to forgive the little things, don't let them build up; be a servant; remember love covers a multitude of sin. In marriage sin should be continuously leaving with the tide never to be heard of again. We cannot pile up resentment like stacks of paper just waiting for a good breeze to come along and make a mess.
Also there can be no condemnation in Christ. So,when we cast the blame instead of looking at our own crags that need baptizing we, in one sense, are casting the first stone... at someone else. If we continue running from the water, instead of looking to it to cleanse us, we will not wind up smooth and clean; we will stay rough and dirty. Dismissing sanctification only leads to embitterment as we cling to those sins we just couldn't wash away. So, I see we have two choices left to us. We can either continue watching the ocean, scared of the storm with our crags sticking in every direction, or we can step into the ocean, in faith, knowing that Christ walks beside us. Knowing that when the water smacks us in the head it's for our betterment and eternal beauty, slowly smoothing away our harsh edges. If we remain rough we remain rude and shapeless, leaving us unfinished.
It is sad to see those who bristle at inconvenience and cling to the sins of others' to feed their own resentment. I know I've done it; something comes along that I wasn't expecting. Plans or people pop up without having their name written on my calender first. That's not very fun, now is it? Relax in the water and let God's grace and your love cover a multitude of sins, 70x7.